Webs’ Random Ideas

We are moved into the new place and boxes are still everywhere. Things are slowly getting unpacked and everyday we are discovering new things (well we are finding where the movers put our stuff ). I still have no time to write even though I have plenty to write about. I plan to attempt something this weekend about the new job, area, and apartment.

So besides moving and starting a new job, I am also getting married. As if my life wasn’t crazy enough .

The wedding is this weekend on the 14th and I’m really getting excited and looking forward to it. I plan to attempt to get some pictures up when I can, but for now posting may be light.

Love you baby, can’t wait till Saturday

This guy is amazing! I have written about him before here…

Three jobs before my current one, back in 03, I had to leave my job to finish a 4 year degree at a University (the one I work for now and have went to school at). On my way out a close coworker of mine said to me, “Now don’t you become a ghost around here.” I told him with strong intentions, “I don’t plan to.”

How many times did I go back and visit over the years? Less than 10, probably more around 7 or 8 though. Was this intentional? No. And I do miss those people a lot. But I guess I’m just moving on and with that comes new friends, new events, and missed opportunities to hang with those from the past.

Jump forward to now. I am going to be starting a new corporate job in about 2 weeks. When I passed along this news a couple months ago to my current boss he sent me a VERY nice email about how he will miss me and truly miss the skills I brought with me to this job.

He also said something that has still stuck with me, “I am not looking forward to the loss of the personal relationship I hope we have developed.” I replied back to his message and told him I have no intentions of dropping my personal relationship with anyone in the office. Which I firmly stand by.

But now I wonder, is it possible to not lose or at least have a diminished relationship with someone you work with and move away from? My boss and I are close, as is all my coworkers, but the only person I have hung out with outside of work is DOF. So I can’t help but think about and worry what will happen with my relationship with my boss and other coworkers.

It’s the only thing I regret about taking this job. But I know it’s important for my long term career and for my fiance (soon to be wife) and I. I need something with a little more permanence right now so I can build up some savings and get ready for other future things.

So I do look forward to what’s ahead, but I will miss the present.

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If you have the urge to go to McDonalds and get an Ice Coffee, I have a better idea for ya. Give your good friend $2.15 and let him punch you in the face. Then you can say, “Wow that punch in the face hurt, but was way better than the McDonalds Iced Coffee!”

Needless to say I attempted one of those iced coffees this morning and it was disgusting. The McDonalds employee grabs a cup fills it up with ice, then about 1/4 of the way with creamer (bleghhh!) and possibly sugar (I think so but missed it), then adds flavor syrup (who the hell knows what’s in that), and then the iced coffee from a separate container. How long the coffee sits and congeals in that container I have no idea, nor do I want to know?

What happened to just a cup of ice with Coffee added to it?

I was walking back with my coworkers and just threw the thing out in a dumpster. They both looked at me and I said, “Well at least a multi-billion dollar corporation got $2.15 from me…” While DOF said, “I could of told you it was terrible.” Thanks! Great timing

I get the sense that McDonalds thinks they can add sugar to anything and make it taste good. Boy could that be farther from reality. The thing was disgusting and I’m sucking on TicTacs trying to get the taste out of my mouth.

I’ll start things off with my 2 cents… Blogging to me is an excellent form of communication. I can post something I’m interested about, users can discuss their feelings on the issue, and as the author, I can see what other people think about the same issues that interest me.

My motives tend to be altruistic in the sense that I don’t think all my ideas are 100% and the best way to formulate an understanding of something is to get collective input. At least this is how I feel. So even if my post comes off as THIS IS THE WAY AND THERE IS NO OTHER, that is not really my intent.

Sometimes the line bleeds between altruistic and narcissistic and to me that seems to be a natural consequence of any journaling by the author. In other words, a journal is the thoughts of the author, so how can it not be a little narcissistic?

That aside, I try to keep my topics altruistic in nature, in the sense that I like posting on topics that helps others in some way. If I can make someone else think or learn something, that is wonderful. If I can help someone, that is even better. As a teacher I loved watching light bulbs turn on, partly the reason I enjoyed my stint at teaching.

How about you? Why do you blog? If you don’t blog, what attracts you to reading them? What kind of person blogs? Is blogging narcissistic, altruistic, both, or is there a fine line between them?

I’ve written about this topic before but I wish to mention again after reading this post on one of Greta Christina’s blogs.

The usual answers are practical ones. And I’ll certainly second them. Marriage is recognized around the country and around the world, and all its practical and legal rights and responsibilities get carried with you everywhere you go . . . in a way that is most emphatically not true for civil unions and domestic partnerships. Besides, it’s a well- established principle that “separate but equal” is inherently not equal. The very act of saying, “No, you can’t have this thing that everyone else can have, but you can have that other thing we created just for you that’s almost exactly like it — isn’t that special?” It’s the creation of second-class status, pretty much by definition.

It’s true. At the base of every argument against gay marriage is the creation of a second class citizen. Rather than acceptance we have mere avoidance of the issue. Rather than learn about the feelings and get to understand someone that’s gay, we shun them into a world with separate but equal status.

But I want to talk about something else today. I don’t want to talk about the legal and practical benefits of marriage. I don’t want to talk about hospital visitation rights, child custody rights, inheritance rights, tax benefits, all that good stuff. That’s all important, but it’s also well-covered ground.

I want to talk about something more intangible. I want to talk about why we’re getting married . . . apart from all that.

Those are some damn good reasons mentioned previously though…

When we get married in June, the State of California will officially recognize that our relationship has the same weight as our parents’ did, and their parents’, and theirs. It will officially drop this “separate but equal” bullshit. It will officially stop seeing us as kids at the little table, poor relatives who should be content with leavings and scraps, second-class citizens. It will officially see us as actual, complete, honest- to- gosh citizens.

At the heart of it all it’s about treating other human beings as, well, human beings. Despite all the BS that is floating around and despite what you may have heard, gay people are people too. And beyond everything they just want to be treated that way.

This brings to mind the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. I heard that message at a young age and it had a surprisingly strong effect on me. Strong enough to where I always tried to look at other people as equal and judged them solely on their character.

Race, religion, skin color, class status, etc they never made a difference to me and still don’t today. I just wish more people could see things in a similar fashion as I do. Gay marriage is just another step towards creating a society where people are truly free.

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Thank you,

(signed by the dude interested)

I say wacky cause I didn’t think my site reached enough people to make someone interested in wanting to advertise on it. I said no because I don’t blog for money or revenue of any kind. I do it cause I enjoy it and for altruistic and narcissistic reasons.

On a completely different note, if web advertisements annoy you try using Firefox and the “Adblock Plus” plugin…

So I’m done with all school work, class and the class I teach, and I am still friggin busy. I’m expecting to get back to some regular posting here pretty soon.