Three jobs before my current one, back in 03, I had to leave my job to finish a 4 year degree at a University (the one I work for now and have went to school at). On my way out a close coworker of mine said to me, “Now don’t you become a ghost around here.” I told him with strong intentions, “I don’t plan to.”
How many times did I go back and visit over the years? Less than 10, probably more around 7 or 8 though. Was this intentional? No. And I do miss those people a lot. But I guess I’m just moving on and with that comes new friends, new events, and missed opportunities to hang with those from the past.
Jump forward to now. I am going to be starting a new corporate job in about 2 weeks. When I passed along this news a couple months ago to my current boss he sent me a VERY nice email about how he will miss me and truly miss the skills I brought with me to this job.
He also said something that has still stuck with me, “I am not looking forward to the loss of the personal relationship I hope we have developed.” I replied back to his message and told him I have no intentions of dropping my personal relationship with anyone in the office. Which I firmly stand by.
But now I wonder, is it possible to not lose or at least have a diminished relationship with someone you work with and move away from? My boss and I are close, as is all my coworkers, but the only person I have hung out with outside of work is DOF. So I can’t help but think about and worry what will happen with my relationship with my boss and other coworkers.
It’s the only thing I regret about taking this job. But I know it’s important for my long term career and for my fiance (soon to be wife) and I. I need something with a little more permanence right now so I can build up some savings and get ready for other future things.
So I do look forward to what’s ahead, but I will miss the present.